“Because you belong to Christ, you have everything you need.” – Colossians 2:10.
I began to realize that I have looked to everyone and everything but God to meet the needs of my heart, even while considering myself one of His followers. I have often been convinced that I could be happy if only my husband would love me the way he “should”.
Even though the love of a partner can be affirming and healing, our validation needs to come from within first. It may be natural to bring this need to our loved ones, but in the end, it will only leave us feeling empty and frustrated, and can even be damaging to our relationships.
I recognized that, no matter how hard he may try, my husband cannot fill me, and the more I push, the more I will push him away. It became clear to me that to have real love with my husband (or anyone else), I must let go of expectations and stop bringing this longing to him.
Therefore, if only God can meet this hunger in my heart, then I made a decision that I would take all my needs to God and see what happens. This was a challenge for me, since trusting God has never been my strong suit. Nonetheless, that is what I began to do – bring every little need to God.
I stopped looking to my husband or to anyone or anything else but God to fill me. With the pressure off, I am finding myself more able to accept what others have to give to me. That is when my tormented heart began to find peace.